Why you shouldn’t be hard on yourself when you fall short of the mark

Keep the faith,

Stan R. Mitchell

About me: I’m a full-time, action-fiction author with books similar to Vince Flynn, Stephen Hunter, and Tom Clancy. I’m also a prior infantry Marine with Combat Action Ribbon, and a guy who spent 10+ years writing every day in the newspaper business. Please consider subscribing for email alerts — I mostly post about things that either motivate or inspire you.

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8 thoughts on “Why you shouldn’t be hard on yourself when you fall short of the mark

  1. What a wonderful reminder, Stan. It’s true, that often times we are quick to forgive those around us but less so with ourselves. Funny how that works. Move on and forward, forgive and continue to learn, that’s the key. Another great video.

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    1. Thank you so much for saying that, love… It has been so hard for me to step out into making those videos. It’s really proving quite a challenge learning to love myself and get over all the many flaws I see.

      I told my wife Danah that I’d rather speak in front of a hundred or thousand people than try to focus on that little camera hole, when there’s no reaction to what you’re saying. Thus, it’s nearly impossible to loosen up and smile or create a warm video.

      But, we must do those things we hate most, and right now, there’s nothing I’m hating more, so I think I will grow mightily from this new endeavor. I hope, anyway… : /


      1. The videos feel very personal and intimate as if you’re speaking directly to us and not to a lens so you’re doing something right. I think when one speaks from the heart than there’s always a true connection.

        Anyways, you’re a rock star Stan 🙂

        Ps did you or Danah paint that painting I always see in the background of the videos? It’s really good.

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        1. Thank you again for saying such kind words. I’m definitely adding them to my confidence file!! : )

          And regarding the painting, I may just make a video about its significance! But the short of it is, I bought it when we were as poor and struggling as we’ve ever been. (Back when we didn’t have health insurance and lived in a set of apts from the 40s that no kidding only cost us $415 a month. And that included water and utilities, so you can imagine what they looked like.)

          But I saw that painting in a Big Lots. (Not sure if they have those up there, but they’re like a super discount store that’s even cheaper than Walmart.) And the thing was $10, and it kind of spoke to me.

          And I could look at it and see that someday, I’d own an incredible home like that if I just persevered. At that time, I was huge on dream boards, and we owned the weekly newspaper — The Oak Ridge Observer.

          So, we bought it and I used it to look at and dream about and feed myself as we struggled to keep our newspaper going, and as I dreamed of launching others across the state, the South, and eventually the nation/world.

          Told you I’ve always been a silly dreamer. : )

          But the bottom line is now we have plenty of money to replace it, but I still kind of hold onto it for sentimental value.

          Is this an embarrassing story, or what?! lol


          1. That is such a cool story! I’m so glad I asked about it! You should definitely do a post about it. It’s a wonderful story of inspiration. And it’s great that you still have the painting 🙂

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